FMLA Has A New Look

The Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA), enacted in 1993, was amended January 28, 2008.  Prior to the amendment eligible employees were able to take up to 12 workweeks of unpaid leave in four circumstances. The amendment expands the FMLA to include leave related to family members of military service people. Read President Signs FMLA Expansion for Military Families for a synopsis of the amended law. As the article points out the expansion will obviously create more questions surrounding the FMLA.  Hopefully, the amended law helps military families rather than burdens them with additional hoops to jump.  I would urge all employers and employees affected by the amendment to educate themselves about the changes. Also, as an employer, remember to notify employees about the changes.

Mediation: Good for the Family

In Polk County Iowa all litigants in family court, which include divorcing couples and couples in the middle of paternity, custody and support cases, must submit to mediation (unless they are able to resolve their case prior to the mediation deadline). In outlying counties either party may request mediation. Luckily, in Iowa, there are many excellent and experienced family law mediators.

In divorce and other family law mediations, a neutral facilitator will help you and your spouse (significant other) discuss needs and wants. The goal is to reach a mutually acceptable agreement without going to trial. The process is confidential. The majority of time the mediator is an attorney; however, effective mediators have other diverse backgrounds as well.

I am a huge advocate of mediation for the following reasons: Mediation is usually less expensive than a trial, preferred by judges, more satisfactory to the parties and fosters higher compliance. Most importantly, it allows both parties to retain control over case outcome.

Divorce and Your Credit Score

Daniel Clement, a NY divorce lawyer, recently published a good article on preserving your credit rating during a divorce. He reminds divorcing spouses that apportioning joint liability is not binding on a creditor; a creditor can attempt to collect the debt from either or both parties. Missed payments can have a deleteriuos affect on your credit score for years.

If you know a divorce is imminent, it may be wise to take action, as suggested by Mr. Clement, at least six months to a year before filing. This way, if and when problems start rearing their head, many issues will have already been resolved.

Bringing Children Around New Relationships

Recently, J. Benjamin Stevens, an attorney with the South Carolina firm of Stevens MacPhail posted a good blog on dating after divorce. Like Mr. Stevens points out, many of my divorce clients ask whether they can allow their child around a new boyfriend/girlfriend following a divorce.

While you may meet resistance from your new ex-spouse, having your child around a new girlfriend/boyfriend is permissible so long as s/he acts appropriately, doesn't have something in his/her past (such as a recent child abuse conviction) that is inappropriate, and the new person isn't there overnight. However, with respect to the latter, this may be more applicable in a new relationship before the child has time to adjust to the divorce and the parent's new relationship. There comes a point when overnights typically occur however, discretion and consideration for the child's feelings should be paramount.

Taking Revenge on Your Heirs

MSN Money and Bankrate.com have an excellent article about how to leave a mess for your heirs.  So many of the points ring true with many people.  With as much research people put into buying a toaster, they should do as much research into their estate plan and organizing their affairs.  As the article states, estate planning isn't fun and I can't make fun.  However, unless you truly don't like your family, take some relatively simple steps to get your affairs in order.

Selecting Attorney to Probate Estate

How do you select an attorney to probate an estate? The individual who is nominated as executor under the will or who will serve as the administrator is the one responsible for choosing the attorney. Many people believe that the attorney who drafted the will is expected to handle the probate. While there is no requirement that the drafting attorney handle the probate, it is not uncommon situation as many people may not know an attorney who works in that area of the law and using the same attorney who has the will makes it a simple decision.

Before you do go that route, however, check out the attorney. Be sure to get an understanding, in writing, how attorney fees will be handled; that the attorney is familiar with the probate process; and that you are comfortable working with that attorney. Also, if there is much of a potential of a challenge to the will, the attorney that drafted the will is not able to handle the administration.

While the attorney that drafted the will may have much of the information necessary to handle the probate for the deceased individual, feel free to shop around and find an attorney that you feel comfortable with and that is competent in probating estates.